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Mortified.

August 5th, 2007 (04:18 pm)

It has been brought to my attention
by an old and dear Friend who also has an LJ...
That a blanket email has been sent out,
by what I can only describe as someone
WELL MEANING,
to virtually everyone I know.

I knew NOTHING about this, have NOTHING to do with this...
but want very much to appologise for it--regardless.

I am humiliated, and more than a little angry.

I do not 'panhandle' my relationships, internet or otherwise.
Do not even maintain a Wish List on my blog.

The very idea makes me feel ill.
Quite ill.

I will deal with the "Clever Clown" later, once I can figure out
exactly how to articulate to him
why what he did was so very very wrong.

Until then, please know--I need your support, yes.
But not THAT kind of support.


-Ginger931

Comments

Posted by: dabroots (dabroots)
Posted at: August 5th, 2007 10:13 pm (UTC)

You can feel however you like about it, but I wouldn't be angry at your friend for doing it. Now, if he'd been trying to pimp you out or something, maybe.

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 5th, 2007 10:47 pm (UTC)
Catwoman 2

The very nature of the act,
contacting my FList???

Those people range from soul-mates I've known for 15 and 20 years...a couple I would bury a body with, and not ask questions--who would do the same for me?

To people on a couple of filters that I know only from entertaining blogs.

I have many many many filters.
The very idea of a blanket message???

It comes down to PRIDE
and PRIVACY.


Posted by: just john (justjohn)
Posted at: August 5th, 2007 11:55 pm (UTC)
NOW she tells us!

Do you know how hard it is to cancel a surprise Lipizzaner Stallion show, after all the hassles of arranging it and getting them specially trained?

(Seriously tho, yeah, I did think the spam was pretty creepy ... but who to complain to? People who think what they're doing is righteous are hard to dissuade.

It could have been FAR worse -- at least the guy was smart enough to BCC the whole list, so we didn't all wind up with a bunch of each others' email addresses.

But I'm saving his email address, for the NEXT time I'm going through bankruptcy. This guy didn't do anything for me in the two and a half years I was jobless and on LJ, but maybe next time's the charm.)

Posted by: Kathy (hrm_ok)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 02:01 am (UTC)
jazz hands

I feel somewhat left out. I *think* I am someone who you would bury a body with and did not get the email. *SOB* :)

Miss you bunches sweetie.

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 04:18 am (UTC)
Bubble of Serenity

You probably just deleted it as spam...
I hope most did.

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 04:19 am (UTC)
WW Stand

And yes.

NO questions.

*nods*

I dig for you.

Posted by: lolliejean (lolliejean)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 03:03 am (UTC)

Aww hon. Be gentle. He cared about you and wanted to be helpful and probably didn't think beyond that. I'm sure any of us who received the message understood it that way and knew that you didn't have anything to do with it.

I thought it was sweet. There have been times in my life when I was desperate and struggling financially and would have been very touched and grateful that someone cared enough to try and find a way to assist. I don't know him but it didn't appear to me that he was out to gain anything (from you or us) - my perception was that he wanted to find a way to help you out of a bad situation.

See it that way and try not to let your pride get in the way of acknowledging an act that appears to have been meant to be kind even if you would not accept that kind of help.

xoxo ~ Lori

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 04:21 am (UTC)
A Basket Case

It was huge and rude.

Sorry. I'm still angry.

Posted by: Orin (rin_o)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 04:31 am (UTC)

...i've been redacted. well then , in the interest of being the advocate of evil!


you should totally eat a whole chocolate cheesecake and down it with a half-bottle of rum. and get laid at the dame time.

that nice enough?

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 07:51 am (UTC)
Dazzler

Yes!

Posted by: Gregory Parks (tokenpants)
Posted at: August 6th, 2007 06:54 pm (UTC)
unicorn heart

Wow.

it's hard to not be totally angry. I hoped that the manner in which I wrote the letter would seem clear and innocuous.

Apparently I was wrong.

I thought I made it clear that you did not in any way panhandle or request help, and that this was something of my own doing, inspired by another act in which I participated.

Apparently I was wrong.

I had hoped that people would either delete it if they thought it was off, or at least contact me with other questions about the veracity of any of my statements.

Apparently I was wrong.

I though merely of what appears to be a couple of complications that are making it difficult for a person I care about and what I could do to help because honestly, moral support seems to be slow-acting and really ineffectual. I like to see results. I don't like to feel like I'm watching a car wreck going "I hope everything turns out fine."

I acknowledge that I violated your personal code and I accept full responsibility. I apparently skeeved out a few people. This is not the type of person I am, but given the creeps out there on the internt, I understand. I don't like being lumped into that category, but I understand. I acted in the only way that I - as a person who neither lives in your hometown, nor is physically settled in any hometown for more than a month - could act and take a more active instead of passive role.

I don't maintain mass lists, I don't sell lists. I solicit nothing.

I apologize to all involved and I am leaving. Thank you for your time.

Posted by: Calamity Vain (esmetutu)
Posted at: August 9th, 2007 04:12 am (UTC)

honestly, i was a little shocked to receive that email... not that i wouldn't help you, but it just seemed wrong. the mess you got yourself into is yours and yours alone, and no amount of well intended money would fix things, i can imagine. i'm glad you responded this way. although i'm certain he meant well, it seemed very off.

Posted by: Red Lipstick & Green Ink (ginger931)
Posted at: August 9th, 2007 08:20 am (UTC)
Look Out

You cause me to brace myself.......

You always say what I do not want to hear,
but must.

My mess, yes.

Nice sun glasses.

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